Marriage is a business transaction in India

on Apr 23, 2013 , 03:46 pm
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It's really strange but marriage should be the meeting of two people who promise to love each other no matter what. Instead in India, that's the last thing on anyone's minds when a marriage proposal comes for a girl or a boy.

Marriage in India seems to be all about money and cars and wealth being exchanged. Usually and more often from the girl's side. Everything seems to be about how rich the families are and how much money can be made through a marriage alliance. The richer the family the better the business transaction.

And yetI'veseen so called educated families give in to the demand of dowry. And then live to go through the horror of losing their daughter to dowry deaths.

Why is it that love and concerns whether the couple will get along with each other are last on the list? Marriage seems to be a business in India. Do you agree?
Inderneil Roy Chowdhury
Agreed!
on Feb 15, 2014 , 11:37 pm
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Nagaraj Murthy
in like this comment try to understanding durty people
on May 24, 2013 , 05:57 am
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Rajesh Verma
I hate dowery. But it has been seen that girl's family didnot belive their childrenthat he could not stand on their own feet. They think that if we intitally support them then they will live in a healthy life for that they give dowery. Our sicial system are also follows this rule. If we told our children that make your plan for the future and try to fulfill them. This will create the self confidence over them and they didnot ask the dowery to their parents.
on May 22, 2013 , 01:10 am
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Sarika Sethy
i hate dowry.my boyfriens father rejects me bcz of dowry.our familly is not tht much wealthy to gave him appropriate dowry.thts why his father choose another girl of wealthy familly.
on May 15, 2013 , 04:09 pm
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Sudhanshu Bhasin
Law should be stringent enough to stop Dowry at first place But EXCUSE ME, The Marriage in India is very big business not just for the families BUT its a Billion Dollar Industry where people spent millions for Functions , Flowers, Food, Decorations, Transport, Airlines But what people really dont do, FEED the real hungry who is dying Educate the one who wants to Study but could not afford The problem lies in the People and not the Public
on Apr 25, 2013 , 11:55 pm
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Shashikanth Balepura
It is a business everywhere in the world, here we do not show dowry officially, we give it in good terms, expecting our daughters to be treated very good. Whereas in other countries, pre-nuptial agreement is written first and then marry, here the brides gets killed, because they do not come out in open against the practice, emotional pressures, society problems, parents pressure. Whereas in other countries, they will get married and will be waiting to divorce, both way they are beneficial.
on Apr 24, 2013 , 04:13 pm
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Arun Kumar
Marriage Arranged or Love is still a sacred union of 2 hearts and souls with a commitment to share their life together... In today's materialistic world the actual meaning of this union is forgotten and it has become money exchange like dowry demanded by the boys side... or unreasonable demands from educated girls of worldly pleasures from the boy...in the name of material security... They fail to realise it is the person whom they are marrying matters the most than anything else....
on Apr 24, 2013 , 03:15 pm
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Sujit Gujar
i dont know about dowry..i hv been hearing abt dowry system..but in my close relatives..frd circle i nvr heard of dowry...but rather in educated families...getting good girl is also becoming challnging..and girls demands are increasing a lot at the time of marriage..lot of my frds are finding tough time to get married.,.as girls want them to owe a house/car and all...how come inspite of highly educated person make house and car and all in 2-3 yrs of his carreer...?
on Apr 24, 2013 , 02:11 pm
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Sujit Gujar
in one case i know, boy was asked by girl how we can survive in your only 50thousand income in city like bangalore?i was shokced...it was not the case that she was earning similar amount...at least in metros...ask small business families how tough it is to get their sons married...(I am not talking about business families with cores of rs property)..
on Apr 24, 2013 , 02:13 pm
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Sudhanshu Bhasin replies to Sujit Gujar
You are right The girl side are equally responsible as they expect alot and THEN , people (the groom side) Expect Alot Its a Vicious Circle
on Apr 25, 2013 , 11:57 pm
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Sujit Gujar
i know..my nw is very small...here i am not tryint to object your point of view..may be what i had observed is <10%...my only point is, its not that other side is 100% clean...
on Apr 24, 2013 , 02:14 pm
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Neha Singh replies to Sujit Gujar
Dey see in US that they have to have a car, but it is all illegal bec ur not allowed to make money as a student, but all Pakis, Bangladeshis and Indians do waiter n babysitting jobs n make money for a car, home etc, when it is totally illegal to do so, they can be deported if caught at any time..
on Apr 25, 2013 , 08:08 pm
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A V Subramanya
Mostly this happens in arranged marriage. We have to blame the boys family for demanding dowry. The parents of the girl are forced to accept because they have to get their daughter married. Today's children are educated and they should put their foot down and insist only on court marriage. Donate the money saved to poor people or rape affected victims.
on Apr 24, 2013 , 01:48 pm
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Kevin Synet replies to A V Subramanya
May be you don't know the ground realities. Who force them to give dowry? Dowry is giving because SIL should be rich, IPS/IFS?IAS/ business man/ Govt jobs etc. Why don't these parents select a nice educated hard working man instead of above. The girls side is equally culprit for dowry. Also todays girls unreasonable demands. They want film star look with palace like house, cars, servants. For you girls demand is acceptable and see only boys fault.
on Apr 24, 2013 , 04:34 pm
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Sudhanshu Bhasin replies to Kevin Synet
Agree Agree Agree This is the real problem
on Apr 25, 2013 , 11:59 pm
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Sufiyan Shaikh replies to A V Subramanya
girls parents dont pay dowry because they are being forced they pay because they want a rich groom.They can marry their daughter to a nice honest low earning guy but their greed prevents them from doing it so plz do blame the girls parents.
on Apr 24, 2013 , 02:09 pm
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Jayesh Patil
it's just shame for us.
on Apr 24, 2013 , 12:55 pm
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Sudhanshu Bhasin replies to Jayesh Patil
Need to change NO SHAME
on Apr 25, 2013 , 11:59 pm
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