Is it okay to marry a distant cousin?

on May 19, 2013 , 11:39 pm
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My parents are talking about getting me married to a distant cousin in the family. I don’t know whether this is right or not but I find this idea of marrying my own cousin very creepy. Though I haven’t met him much in all these years, it’s only during family weddings or occasions that we got to see each other.

I am really confused what to do. My parents feel there’s nothing wrong but I have heard that if you marry someone from within the family, there are some medical complications that come at a later stage. Please advice me what should I do.
Md Shamshad Shaique
As per medical science, if a girl/boy marries with in family complications may come but that is restricted to ones own brother or sister or maternal/paternal uncles. Marrying in far relations in most cases doesn't pose any threat. Moreover if u socially think, its a wiser step. U are knowing the boy's family in advance. If suppose ur marriage is not working good then his family shall surely support you. So what I suggest go for it.
on May 25, 2013 , 11:07 pm
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Bidhan Mohanta replies to Md Shamshad Shaique
You made some factual mistakes. Whenever it is said that medical complications arise in case of close relation marriages it refers mainly to cousins, parallel or alternate. Of course this is also true for "own brother sister" marriages, but these incest cases are extremely rare if not nonexistent. Regarding her query, if he is a distant cousin, there should not be any problem.
on Aug 17, 2013 , 01:23 am
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Bittu Singh
i agree.......
on May 23, 2013 , 03:57 pm
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Govindk Mali
No thats woring distant cousin is your fathers brother mens your father
on May 22, 2013 , 11:57 am
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R S
I really dont know what other thing than love between you guys is important to get married..
on May 22, 2013 , 10:09 am
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Dumma S replies to R S
German man who had four children with his sister loses European Court fight claiming incest conviction breached his human rights. Google the previous sentence U will get a link to DAILYMAIL.CO.UK
on May 22, 2013 , 10:43 am
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Dumma S replies to R S
For love you can get married to anyone. no argument on that. There was a news that 2 Germans brought up at different places fell in love and happily married. They realized they are biological brother and sister through medical examination once their children shows lot of genetical problems. Because of the love for each other they are still married I guess and was facing Jail term. Important thing is not the jail, but 3/4 children cannot walk, talk, lot of health issues.
on May 22, 2013 , 10:39 am
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Minakshi Minakshimudum
please translate hindi ok ... agar apko ea shadi nahi karni to mat kijie !! our aapka cousin apse shadi karana chata he ya nahi vah puch lijie ,uske bad agar aapko lagata he ies shadi se aap khush rahenge to koi buri bhat nahi he !! bas apke bache ko mat bataie fir dekhie life is enjoy regard Rony....
on May 22, 2013 , 10:04 am
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Chandrakant Jagtap
check the your Kundali first from knowledge Austrologer if not found then send to me.
on May 22, 2013 , 07:15 am
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Urvashi Sharma
There are no medical complications that will come in your life but there is a higher(than other couples) chance of some medical complications in the offspring(s).. That is why weddings between similar gene forms are ill advised. Plus as you mentioned...there is the problem of the friction between the families if anything goes wrong..
on May 22, 2013 , 04:08 am
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Balasubramanian Ramarathnam
it would have been better if you would have consulted your family doctor who would have clarified your doubt. Keep personal problems with yourself and share it only with your family members and not with even your dearest friends. If he is your aunt's son from your father's side or son of your uncle from your mother side, you can consent the proposal of your parents after discussing your doubts, if any, with him, to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding later. Balan, Bang
on May 21, 2013 , 11:36 pm
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Dumma S
Brother and sister shouldn't marry, since the genes are similar results in no offsprings or children will be genetically weak. Among KERALA hindus, cousin marriages are very popular, their most preferred way is the marriage between sister's son and brother's daughter. DO YOU THINK THE KERALITES are DUMB in any areas? So it works. So go ahead if you like the person & if you are worried only about this.
on May 21, 2013 , 09:37 pm
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R S replies to Dumma S
In Kerala, that is primarily done because they want to keep the gold within their family..and that is DUMB
on May 22, 2013 , 10:07 am
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Dumma S replies to R S
yea really? why do you think so? your point is correct if we were talking about the old system of 'marumakka-thaya'(where the family were large and not like today's nuclear-family type), and it was not for gold; it was to maintain the elite power within the family. BUT, with that even any genetical problem reported form Kerala because of this.
on May 22, 2013 , 10:28 am
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Shatrughen Shatru
it's depend on your think if u think that it's write then write or u think that wrong then wrong. but one thing i say u every parent take a write dission of his child. so i say u one thing just take a write dission. don't confuse.
on May 21, 2013 , 09:04 pm
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