'Girl's family encourages dowry'

on Nov 22, 2013 , 11:02 am
I was just reading a survey, which stated that dowry remains the fundamental problem in India and it is absolutely true. But I think more than boy's parents and relatives, it's the girl's family that encourages dowry.

Even if not asked for anything specific, girl's parents would want to load her with gifts and cash in the name of happiness and in a way they are only promoting the culture of dowry. So how can we expect that this social problem would ever come to an end. What's your opinion on this?
Gopiraman Alok
even girl I mean lady are responsibile
on Jun 03, 2014 , 06:31 pm
Sreejith Ramadasan
its rubbish..people have converted everything to show of status or how rich they are and try to outdo other relatives or friends by giving their daughter more..only if they concentrated on making sure that the two who are going to marry like each other and wont get divorced in a month it would be better...If the family insist on dowry let the girl have it i would say that it would be better if the guys just dont take that money..its given to their daughter let it be like a deposit for her future if in case something happens...
on Mar 03, 2014 , 08:26 am
The culture of dowry is deep routed in our country. Sophasticated and educated families may not be upfront in demanding dowry in the real sense, they put it in form of 'good hospitality and show of respect as good gesture' in form of gifts for their own family members and relatives so that they can boast of their good choice of the girl's family background for their able son. Its become a lot more complex then we think. Sometimes girls family offer to gift basics to start living an independent life to their daughter so that their daughter do not have to struggle for the basics in life which she has been used to which in turn becomes a point of dissatisfaction or constant scrutiny by the grooms parents. However it cannot be ruled out that in certain cases, its the girls family who increase expectations of the groom's family by offering and gifting them more than demanded or more than expected !!!
on Nov 25, 2013 , 10:10 am
Sharad Pant
Dowry is the system created by the people for their own benefits. As it is a status symbol for both boys and girls family. If boy is not taking anything from girls then the people in society vespers that certainly there is something wrong with boys family that's why they made this sacrifice. Even by giving dowry, girls parents shows the community that how rich they are. The parents who have daughter and sons, they organize this show for their daughter to show the community to earn double in the marriage of their sons. He/She told to the community people that he had given lot for his/her daughter now its his/her turn. Thus the chain reaction is going on. Who will stop it??????
on Nov 24, 2013 , 11:17 pm
Sam Yuv
Who is the saint?Dont girl look for a life of luxury in marriage?Dowry,Alimony are nothing but greed.
on Nov 24, 2013 , 11:13 pm
Chandan Advani
When the girl's family gives voluntarily it's called a gift from the parents to the children. When the boy's family demands it and even worse, pressures the girl's family into giving, it's called Dowry.
on Nov 24, 2013 , 09:20 pm
Sunil Singh
Dowry is there in the society because of boys parents being greedy..... this in turn leads to girls parent again asking for dowry for their son......... It is example of greed as an institution in our so called great indian society...........This System is a black spot to all indians on there face...........
on Nov 24, 2013 , 09:10 pm
Shashikanth Balepura
If that is given voluntarily by the girl parents then it is better create a document for it, that they have given voluntarily, as when the relationship goes into problem, this will act as a catalyst for the case to become strong and unwanted mess will get created. Because once the dowry case is filed, our system will torment the boy's family and media will act more to it.
on Nov 24, 2013 , 08:59 pm
Kamal Pundir
Asper law of land dowry is not to be given or taken both party should be considered equal to punish than only dowry problem can stop.
on Nov 24, 2013 , 05:35 pm
A V Subramanya
I may call this as a voluntary contribution. As a father, I would like to see my daughter enjoying the same facilities she was enjoying when she was with me. If the girl's parents give some thing of their own will, what is the harm? But, I am against the boy's family demanding dowry and unreasonable things.
on Nov 24, 2013 , 11:47 am
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