'Fiancé lied about salary'

on Jan 16, 2013 , 04:58 pm
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I cannot believe this is happening to me. I met my fiancé on a matrimonial website and now we are due to get married in a month. But I recently got to know that he lied to me and my family about his salary? He does not earn as much as he mentioned to us. I feel so cheated by him and we have already started distributing wedding invites. Help!
Popescu Emilia
amine wedding and leave for thinking, avoid this thread and try to avoid it. dismissed if he sees it reach to question where I was wrong and why / if you do not mind that Amini wedding, then do money will go to seek another victim, this depends on you. Think, think, think.
on Feb 03, 2013 , 05:24 pm
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L. N. Subramanian Mani
Madam, It's not any new that people get acquainted on social network and on matrimonial sites and fall pray in their life by expecting many good things to come from marriage which ultimately turns very sour to relish. Just on face value, one should not go in full stream without knowing a person HE / SHE and repent later.
on Jan 18, 2013 , 12:15 pm
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Phani Angara
Your concern is very valid assuming that money is not the only criteria for you. Are you maintaining a healthy rapport with this guy so far from the time you met? If yes, then see if you know other aspects of this guy are worth marrying him for. If not, then confront him about this directly. You have just started distributing cards, so it's just a matter of admitting your mistake to a few relatives/friends. After marriage, it will be a life long ordeal. So decide for yourself quickly
on Jan 18, 2013 , 08:56 am
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Darth Ra
Wait, so you agreed to get married based solely on how much a guy makes??? We have a name for women like you - gold diggers. And if you are one, why don't you try the porn industry. I am sure you will fetch plenty of money there!
on Jan 18, 2013 , 06:28 am
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Bobby Solomon
i agree that he might have lied to you and that is not correct, you have every right to feel cheated. I also understand that it puts you and your family in a commitment where the trust is broken, but i also would like to point out that if you are marrying this individual based on how much money he makes, then you are marrying for the wrong reason. Not only with this person but if this is your criteria then it is wrong reason to marry with any man.
on Jan 17, 2013 , 08:46 pm
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Prashant Verma replies to Bobby Solomon
Agreed with you Bobby however the dilemma here is that how can you trust a person for life when he lied to you at the very first step of togetherness..... For me its not about money and it should never be money to decide the relationship but mutual understanding and trust which is missing here unless the guy himself told this fact to the girl....
on Jan 17, 2013 , 08:58 pm
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Sujith Thomas
Look at the bigger picture kiddo. Look for potential not facts. Is he someone who can love you, provide for you and your future children, be faithful and caring, do you feel compatible with his family and friends. These are the questions that you should be asking yourself not the reason as to why he lied abt in his pay. Maybe he wanted you to know that he could provide you with everything. . And if you are still going to cry over this, I believe something else should be bothering you.
on Jan 17, 2013 , 07:06 pm
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Vp Arora
If this person is entering in married life by lying about his own capabilities then please do reconsider your decision before it is too late even though your wedding invites are distributed. . Though you may not have consented due to his money, but still he should have been clean. The trust between you two is already weakened, what about in rest of your life. You can sit and talk to him and discuss if he has been lying on other issues which are close to your heart and then decide.
on Jan 17, 2013 , 06:28 pm
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Anup Deb
i will go through with Subrahmanya Bhat, yes if you are not confortable from the start then it will destroy your future, talk to your fiancé @ first and tell him clearley that why he tell a lie regarding his salary, is there anything to tell, after that its upon u to take the right decission!!
on Jan 17, 2013 , 02:34 pm
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Karthik
Many people have been giving there own advice but you need to decide for urself as to what you need in life so stay calm and go with ur instints and do what feels rite for you. All the best....
on Jan 17, 2013 , 01:58 pm
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Subrahmanya Bhat
We say, marriages are made in heaven. You will have to live with him rest of your life. If you are not comfortable in the beginning itself, better do not pursue this alliance. Well begun is half done but you face obstacles in the beginning itself. if not sure yourself, say not now itself.
on Jan 17, 2013 , 01:25 pm
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