Female boss hitting on my son. Help!

on Jul 23, 2013 , 08:52 am
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My 27-year-old son is a model and at a recent official party, my female boss boss me him. She is 35 something but don't know why she was continuously flirting with my son.

I didn't know how to react and felt very uncomfortable too but since she is the Boss, I didn't say a word. Now things are getting out of control. She is in touch with my son on a regular basis and i am afraid what if they get serious for each other. Pls advice me how to handle this situation.
Chitta Aditya
Since your concern is to break any sort of relationship you'd assume they have with each other, counsel your son by explaining the effects of being in a relationship with an elderly lady who BOSSES. Per your comments, I understand that you son is not too matured to understand the situation he is in. So there is every possibility of him getting into the soup. Models fall for women who lure them with expensive gifts but it all ends up in a mess. However, thanks to our Bollywood movies, we have had this lesson rightly shown in some of them (advice him to watch Dil toh Bachcha Hai) if he didn't. There is always a selfish thought behind such moves your Boss made. The intention could be anything but the reception by the 'other party' (your son) should be mature. If he is not so, it can be attained only through counseling. I personally do not believe in inviting your Boss for dinner and explain the scenario for obvious reasons- 1. If she were to understand what you say you are not comfortable with, she wouldn't make that move in the first case. She already did, meaning she has an intention. 2. If you are worried about your career, this dinner would only jeopardize your relationship with her and your work and to add wind to fire, she might continue to spoil your son. If he has a best friend who is sensible enough to understand your pain and make your son understand the after effects of this immature act, pull him in. You can always ask his friends to make trips to various places/ hangouts etc so he can get busy with his friends when he is free. This is something I could think of. I’m a 27 year old trying to help a brother from another mother. All the best!
on Jul 23, 2013 , 11:26 pm
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Shiv Pandey
Little confused how cum your boss can able to meet your son on regular basis. If he is not working under her and only meeting with her because of you, just slowly break that connection. I also suggest you should do One-To-One talk with your son and pass your concern politely but directly talk instead of confused indirect way and let him take his decision and trust him. Trust me 27 years old of today’s world are much more mature, practical and realistic. They are clear about their priorities. Also please do not raise this issue afterward (raising same topic again and again makes people rebellion sometime).
on Jul 23, 2013 , 08:07 pm
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Badrinath M
Until one do bad, bad never follows him. Vice versa
on Jul 23, 2013 , 04:40 pm
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Vishal Kaul
I am also a boy of your son's age . More you talk or counsel with your son on this matter. more he will make it a secret relation ship. having a relation ship with your boss will be like a personel trophy for him. so better you try to make sure that your female boss leaves him. you could create this situation , by making him aware on casual chats about his earlier gf's or if you can get him marriied, they are many scenarios which you can project in your boss mind which will make your female boss try some other guy.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 03:57 pm
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Navraj Shardul
you said your son is 27 and i think he must be mature enough to know and feel all the instincts...if he cannot then its better that you counsel your son by having a healthy chat with him, coz this time its your boss so you know everything but you cannot know everyone..hence better you guide your son and make him learn about the worldly affairs..
on Jul 23, 2013 , 02:37 pm
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Megha C
It's important to sit and talk it out separately with your boss and your son. Just because she is your boss, you can't step back.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 02:27 pm
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Priyanka Sharma
I think you are too worried about your job and your reputation at work and that's what is stopping you from going ahead and talking with your boss. well you need to make a choice. what do you want? a good future for your son and save him or let things be the way are and be safe in your job.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 02:08 pm
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Subrahmanya Bhat
Counsel your son and explain him the pros and cons of such relations. Is your boss single or married? If married, try to bring this to her husband's notice discretely. If your son is matured, let him make use of this association for his personal advancement but make him understand that he has to draw a line some where.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 12:42 pm
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Megha C replies to Subrahmanya Bhat
My boss is a divorcee and that's why i am even more worried. Had she been a single woman, i still would have let things go and not bothered so much. My son is not that mature as yet and is thinking it's cool if my boss likes him. i think counseling would be a good idea.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 01:37 pm
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Subrahmanya Bhat replies to Megha C
There is a reason to worry, I agree with you. Your son needs proper counseling. Mother to son counseling will not help here. You need some one expert in transactional analysis to counsel him. I am a victim of similar situation about four decades back. There was no one to guide me and it took 15 years to come out of it. In this process, I lost my prime time.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 04:36 pm
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Dark Knight
ask her for dinner at ur place. tell her tht u r a little uncomfy wid dese things in a polite way, so as to not hamper ur huby's wrk relation wid her. talk to her in pvt.... matter wil gt sorted.
on Jul 23, 2013 , 10:56 am
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Megha C replies to Dark Knight
She is my boss.. not my husband's. as far as calling her home for dinner is concerned, i don't mind that but i not sure if she would understand my worry. very scared and not sure of how she would react
on Jul 23, 2013 , 01:43 pm
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