Arranged marriages are big risk!

on Mar 04, 2013 , 01:59 pm
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I would never go for an arrange marriage. How can anybody be forced into spending his or her own life with a stranger?

I just read a survey, which said that a majority of young Indians are still inA favorA of arrange marriages. OMG, I didn't think India was still so backward! What do you guys prefer?A
Aashima Sharma
If u are really happy wid ur partner.. it really does't matter that marriage is arranged or love ... its all about compatibility and adjustment
on Mar 06, 2013 , 10:36 am
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Sam.k replies to Aashima Sharma
true aashima sharma
on Mar 15, 2013 , 08:27 pm
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Dipak Jha
idiot there is difference between arrange marriage and forced marriage..today even if indians go for arrnge marriage they first agree to marry...and wat love u r talking about...hve seen american families and their divorce rate...which is much less in arrange marriage in india....in my family all the marriages are arranged and they live happily....
on Mar 06, 2013 , 09:49 am
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Dipak Jha
and wat do you mean by backward...at the end of the day it all about livin' happily...be it any form of marrige..not backward or advanced....
on Mar 06, 2013 , 09:53 am
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Dark S
First of all there is a difference between arrange marriage and FORCED marriage. In arrange marriage both, the boy and girl, should agree for marriage. That is the girl and boy are willing to marry each other. In FORCED marriage, either the girl or boy is unwilling to marry.
on Mar 06, 2013 , 04:04 am
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Dark S
I will explain now what happen in arrange marriage. First both the families read biodata of boy/girl. Then they both go on a date (just to know each other). After first meeting if either of them does not like the partner he/she can say NO. But if they like each other they again meet each other. Again after this meeting he/she feels the other partner is not good for them, they can simply say NO. If they still like each other they (both families) meet aging (for third time) to finalize the RISHTA.
on Mar 06, 2013 , 04:10 am
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Neha Singh
So mny discussions, bt no one says wht they really feel...Obviously, there's more to life than producing kids, and so mny men n women r just after the physical aspect, which bears only 5 % importance..
on Mar 05, 2013 , 10:30 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
P.S: Forgot to mention this. Soulmates do not exist. Read about how simple things such as fulfilment of emotional needs can make anyone fall in love with anyone. (book suggestions: "His Needs, Her Needs"by Dr.Harley, "5 Love languages")
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:54 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
(contd.) The question is, what is really needed in a marriage to consider it a success. Of course, from what you have written I know what you need in your marriage. Good luck on chasing that dream. Chances are, you will get it for a maximum of 7 years (average is 2 years though). Until then, shut up and stop criticizing us who are more pragmatic. What’s your problem, with our convictions? Such intolerance!
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:47 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
(contd.)But it definitely crosses the threshold of a working partnership that is needed to manage a household and raise children and provide security to each other.Arranged marriages only fail when the men turn out to be relics of a Paleolithic age who believe women are commodities. But modern Indian men are changing, while still opting for an arranged marriage.(contd,)
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:46 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
(contd.)Hence they lose the so-called spark. And what results is rampant adultery and phenomenal number of divorces. On the other hand in an arranged marriage, you start to love the person slowly as you get to know them and there is no need for pretense in this. It may or may not go to the level of madly romantic love that is needed to keep you floating over the clouds always (contd.)
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:44 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
(contd) Are you one of those 17 year olds that believe in Prince Charming giving you a ride on a golden unicorn? The reason why the marriages in the west fail mainly is because of the unrealistic expectations both the spouses have. When in courtship the woman plays the role of a pornstar during night and the man plays the role of a White Knight in Shining armor, during the day. These roles do not last once the reality of marriage and having children comes in. (contd.)
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:43 pm
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Alagu Vignesh Mohan
Wow....What a very backward thought?? Just because you do not subscribe to an idea, that seemingly so many others in India subscribe to, that suddenly makes everyone else backward, does it not? Why is it that the divorce rates in the west are disastrously high compared to India? You will say its because our women are not independent, divorce is taboo and all that. But what about the modern day arranged marriages even among highly educated independent couples, still succeeding?
on Mar 05, 2013 , 08:40 pm
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