Arranged marriage is safer

on May 18, 2011 , 11:32 am
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I was sick of hearing so many stories about failed love marriages... even the longest of love relationships saw a tragic end... So i thought arranged marriage is a much safer bet. At least, I won't be cribbing with my partner all the time for his habits that I knew already. I think arranged marriage will have its own charm of knowing your partner and then building a love bond.. what do you guys think? I hope i'm not taking any wrong step in life.Pls suggest
Hrishi Gg
Just go to family court you will see 90% cases for divorce are from arranged marriage. Your question is some thing like... ANDE KO TOD KE BANAAO YA FOD KE BANAAO ACCHA KIS SE BANEGA. Answer is jaise banaoge waise banega , todne ya fodne se kuch nhi hota. Same was Marriage success do not depend on arrange or Love. It all depends on loyalty and understanding. If you are leaving love and going for arranged. you are already not loyal. So no need to think your destination you have already selected. Your marriage is safe until you keep lying.
on Jan 29, 2012 , 08:20 am
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Rajesh Bholankar
yes arrange marriages are safe. most important reason break love marriage is ego. before marriage you couldn't see each other's mistake. after marriage you find mistakes in each other. same mistake before marriage it is acceptable after marriage it is very big mistake. both are think that they have rights to hurt each other play with emotions. all marriages will success but u don't have understand with each other then u forget it will success. no need to read any book or artical it is in everybody's hand how make marriage happy
on Jan 28, 2012 , 07:33 pm
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Projjwal Ghosh
Please read the book "First comes Marriage" by Reva Seth and conclude for yourself. She throws enough statistics at you and if you are still not convinced, let me tell you most polls use extreme samples of FORCED MARRIAGES to equate their risk of failure to love marriages. So much so, in countries like US, millionaires are hiring services of professional matchmakers to find their bride.<br /> <br /> Want commitment, love, and romance? Forget The Rules, and stop waiting for an idealized Prince Charming. In First Comes Marriage, Reva Seth shares the wisdom of more than three hundred women in arranged marriages...and shows how this classic tradition can teach twenty-first-century women important lessons about how to find -- and keep -- Mr. Right.<br /> <br /> The men you date will become the men you marry. The seven secrets in this counterintuitive guide will help you become more selective and increase your chances of finding the right person to share your life with. Seth knows her secrets work -- she married her husband after only meeting him seven times.<br /> <br /> Secret #1: Your man doesn't have to be your best friend.<br /> (That's why you've had a best girlfriend all along, right?)<br /> Secret #4: It doesn't matter if he doesn't dance.<br /> (Common interests are less important than shared values.)<br /> Secret #6: Sexual chemistry isn't always organic.<br /> (Attraction can be created -- if you know how to unlock your passion.)<br /> <br /> A practical, surprisingly progressive guide to love and romance, First Comes Marriage will open your eyes to what makes a guy perfect for you...and will help you find him, date him, and keep falling in love with him forever.
on Jan 28, 2012 , 06:52 pm
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A V Subramanya
Love marriage or arranged marriage, it requires too much adjustments and sacrifices to make a marriage work. After all, we say that marriages are made in heaven. Our parents have seen at least two decades of married life and they know where the shoe pinches. They will not like the similar pinch for their children.<br /> <br /> I too personally favor the arranged marriage. than the love marriage. Opinion may differ from person to person but ultimately, we have to see that a marriage should work.
on Jan 28, 2012 , 05:05 pm
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Panjikattil Chacko
The success in married life do not depend upon whether it is arranged marriage or love marriage.The failure in marriage is due to the absencde of true love. God Created man and subsequently the women and given her to him as a companion.The Gods plan is the eternal mankind.Sexual pleasure in married life is a triumph of the Universe fir its offspring. If one marry only for the pleasure of skin ,then happines will not last long.One may fall sick ,some handicapnes dueto accident or sickness financvial problems,social problems ,ego problems etc. are common in life.If the relation between man and woman is a religious bond it will not break in difficulties.If otherwise a small problem mayend ibn legal dispures, court cases and divorce.<br /> If the love is not true and not deep rooted problems cannot be solved Accept marriage a life long relationship and learn to compromise weith difficulties then it will be sucessfful
on Dec 20, 2011 , 05:00 pm
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Panjikattil Chacko
the success in marriage do not depend on whether it is arranged or loe marriage.It depends upon your perception about marriage.God created man and si=ubsequentlyy the woman to have a companion.It is gods plan that the humanity should continue sthousands of years.Marriage is the system of getting a man and women united and to have children so that the wold will continue .Sexual pleasure is the triump of universe for its off spring It is a reward for getting married and to have children.But nowadays many people consider marriage only for sexual pleasure and not prepared to face the diccisultiesthat come across the married life. If the perception of marriage is not correct this difficulties or difference of opinion and difference of taste will create difficulties and they willnot be prepared for compromise in case of differences. A married liefe is not a bed of roses all the time , sickness, financioal problems ,social problems etc. come quite often One should have a religious bond between the partners in marriage so that true love will prevail If u considermarriage only for pleasure sof the skin difficulties will not be tolerated. So one should marry considering that difficulties may comeand must face it boldly Marriae is not like changing of dress or cars It has to be life long relationship be prepared for that then problem will be solved easily
on Dec 20, 2011 , 04:52 pm
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Ashok Kumar
Arrnage marriage is always safer than the Love marriage because there is so many other people which are directly involved while your marriage process takes place but in love marriage there is two only......this diffrence plays a vital role while any dissatifcation arise .....
on Nov 30, 2011 , 11:21 am
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Ms Mumbai
I have seen both sucessful arranged and love marriages. But more of arranged marriages. I see everyone talk about differences after marriage. But what the differences would be? In arranged marriages it might take sometime to adjust, but then cos' of similar backgrounds they work fine later. Like food, culture and raising kids. I think that might not be the same case with love marriages. Yes in arranged marriages they do have to compromise at the start. But in love marriages they have to always compromise on the above categories till the end of life(or marriage).
on Nov 30, 2011 , 11:04 am
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Atharva D
In love marriage you know the idiot before the asshole. And in arranged marriage you know the asshole before the idiot.
on Nov 30, 2011 , 04:30 am
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Niru H
Well if marriage is all about understanding and adjustments.. whats the difference if it comes from love or arranged.. the only consideration is that both agree to walk the same path... love is a result of emotions before priorities... if priorities of both ppl in love aren't the same.. love wouldn't last long after marriage... arranged marriages allow you to make a balance... but my last words on it.. search for your love and when priorities almost match.. its time for wedlock.. cheers
on Nov 30, 2011 , 12:56 am
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