Asha Mirje NCP and National Commission for Women member has made the statement that gang rape cases like the Delhi and Shakti Mills compound ones have been the because the victim or survivor brought it on herself! If you live in India comments which have no head nor tail are commonplace enough. By now if there isn't some attention seeking politician who's showcasing their ignorance after any incident surrounding women, I'd be surprised. It's something of a tradition but what makes Asha Mirje's comment truly bite is the fact that she is a woman.
I've often wondered what it is about women that irks women so much. Is it because we tend to think we are each other's reflections? Is it envy at the other's fate? What is it about women that makes other women so insecure?
The stares in the metro from judgemental aunties panning the young girls in their tank tops. Silently calling them names. Making a mental note of keeping their sons away from these fallen women. To the insensitivity of other women towards a pregnant woman, the wooden glances at the woman with a black eye. There have been times a friend almost got into another fight with other women for ticking off a man travelling in a the ladies compartment. This from so called educated women who at least looked the part.
Karan Johar made a very interesting point in saying that woman have a huge influence on the way their sons end up treating women. A man's perception of a woman is formed by his mother or his sisters. And usually the mothers are full of hatred for women because they themselves have been ill treated by possibly their mother in law, another woman. So she tells her son that women are evil by default and to be wary of them.
How a woman is treated within her family is decides the future fate of other women. In a patriarchal world most women subscribe to the idea that women need to be looked after by men not by women. For the average Indian woman the three main stages of her life are defined by a man. A father, husband and son. There are no punctuation marks for women. Most of the time if there is the question of upbringing in the picture then the woman is pulled up not the man!
So subliminally has that been entrenched in our minds that women often have a low opinion of other women. Either because of the feminist non-feminist debate or the simple generation gap between our mothers and us.