To Stop Crime Need to Change Attitude Towards Women

on Aug 25, 2013 , 04:16 am

The whole country witnessed another barbaric rape incident. The sad incident happened just a few meters away from a crowded place under the nose of police and other security agencies. It's not the single case of rape that happened after the sad 16th December 2012 incident when a young woman was brutally raped. She died later. The incident was so gruesome that it touched the heart and mind of every one. People came out spontaneously to protest. There was grief and anger among the people. There were huge protests, rallies demanding stringent punishment for the criminals. The people across different fraternity as well as political leaders along with the common man criticized Government for failing to provide security to women. There was demand for tougher law against rape. There were discussions for change in the Juvenile law. The case was given to a fast track court. The government formed committees for reviewing laws to deal with sexual assault cases against women. The repercussions were so high that probably even most illiterate people of this country were aware of this. People were slightly relaxed(?) thinking Ok, now there will be fear among the perpetrators to do such crime.

But it was not even a week; we started reading news on rape incidents including child abuse. In the last eight months there were many cases of rape and sexual assaults on women. Even there was case where the victim was burnt alive. But how come such thing can happen when there is so much discussions and the country is preparing for strongest punishment? How can be someone so fearless? It was just a couple of months back when the whole people of the country had shown anger against such torture. Is not it quite surprising that even after seeing such kind of anger there are people who can dare to do such crime? After all no one born as criminal. What makes them to do such crime?

There are many answers and views. Some people say there should be exemplary punishment for such crime. Only fear for law will minimize such crime. Some asks for security. Some suggests social reform required along with better judiciary system. And of course there is not a single answer which solves the problem. If we see the cases, we see most of times the crimes are committed by those who do not have social responsibility, foresights and respects for the others specially women. Let me think in a slightly different direction. It is said that the social behavior, attitude etc. of a person depends on the way he or she was brought up. The childhood of person has great impact on his/her growth as a fully responsible citizen. During childhood one learns through observations. Once a person acquires enough knowledge through education, he or she gets the ability to justify wrong and right of those observations. Now let's consider the childhood of a small boy across average Indian families. We will see that most of them brought up in a family environment where the father rules the family. They will consistently find their mother follows the instructions of her husband without complain. They will tolerate all the behaviors of their husbands. In case of joint family the scenario is worst. There will be more men to whom women needs to listen and follow instructions. Not only in home almost all sort of family occasions, they will see a visible dominance of male over female. In case of poor family that is worst. There are families where there will be open preference to the boys over girls may it be cloths or foods. The boys will grow observing service to the men of the family by the women and their undeclared self-surrender to this dominance. He will observe all that makes men superior than women. These doses of poison start corrupting a boy's mentality. I am talking about inside the family, what about the outside world? We already have young men in everywhere who loves teasing women. It may be road or inside a bus. Beside this there are movies and events which show a dominance of men over women. I do agree that there are enough occasions as well where we show respect to women. However that is not prominent. But still the problem is not critical unless the boy growing in such an environment get well social education. The education helps justify wrong and right. Unfortunately that does not happen to all. Because of this there is high chance that a boy by the time become a teenage will grow a complete bias attitude towards women. The gender discrimination is so high in our country is that even many of the educated people remain biased. Imagine about who are not fully educated or never get a chance for education. This is because of the culture we brought up in. In a gender bias, male dominant society with uneducated person there is always chance of violence to women. There is need of more lessons on social behavior, respect and responsibilities for children to have a better generation. We should teach children to respect women. Their lesson should describe and emphasize more on women power and women's achievements in the society. There is need of social reforms to involve women in bigger role to project that they are equally capable.

Law and Judiciary can improve punishment and ensure justice. Punishing the criminal is fine but not the end. Stopping crimes from happening is the best. Neither law nor police can change attitude. Police cannot stop crime toward women if attitude of men do not change and unless our society start giving true respect to women. This change actually requires from child hood.

Your point .. Fear of law should deter these barbaric acts.. No one is exempt including the law makers.. When every one starts respecting the law meant for protecting its citizens it should be obeyed but unfortunately the law comes with many exemptions which is what cause of all these problems. It is painful to see every time a innocent soul subjecting to these barbaric acts.. Once the law instills a fear in the mind that you will not let go free without being punished for their crime then I believe we can expect a change otherwise we just be confined to condemning the crime and then again wake up to hear another ..
on Aug 30, 2013 , 04:11 am
Shashi Jain
not we change attitude of man;not possible; 90% takes Alcohol;08PM alcohol is must ; and after u need sex; if u have your own its ok; if y daont u go for either by payment or u rape ; sex ratio is falling;i just say apunish a rape man by 1; hang him in public;2;castarize his penis;he may have artificial penis so remove his testes and penis;if we put hardest rules the crime against women dramitically reduced ;we can have some examples from Arabian countries;nil crime against women.sorry if i gone more;thanks
on Aug 26, 2013 , 09:27 am
Susanta Mukherjee replies to Shashi Jain
You are right, we cannot easily change the attitude of matured man and we need strong laws and harsh punishment for these kinds of criminals. In the post I am talking about changing attitude of a man from childhood. Rape is not the only crime against women in our country. Many women in our country silently tolerate different kind tortures. They neither resist nor complain but prefer to silently bear. I do not think only law can help here? I am not aware of the percentage of bad man in our country as you mentioned. But I strongly believe there are good too. We still have good sons, good husbands, good brothers who respect women and is protesting equally with women against all these crimes. You cannot clean a society in a single day. It’s important we make our young men free from all bad practices of torturing women.
on Aug 26, 2013 , 06:08 pm
Shashi Jain replies to Susanta Mukherjee
dear susanta a bit of education of law say starting from class 6th say half an hour per week; dress code in colleges ;avoid alcohol and drugs; dirty dresses on TV and pictures must be avoided; they are spoillers ;as u said we can not change in day one what we we were in 1947 and what we are now ;we have become more sexual why how all due to TV and cinema These TV and cinema are intrested in showing bust sex kisses .some times i feel M??????????????????????// Regrets Susanta for unwantes words;thanks
on Sep 05, 2013 , 09:32 am
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