Is he gay or not? Whether you follow the gossip columns or not, everyone wants to know what the Karan Johar's sexuality is. Personally, I feel that this clearly should be no one's business but when it comes to showbiz, celebrities lead a life that is so intrusive and they are constantly under the scanner that this perhaps is just an extension of the same.
Director, actor, producer, judge to now a dancer, Karan Johar is a man of many talents but it's sad how his sexual orientation is all that people want to talk about. Perhaps in his own way to address the elephant in the room KJo has penned a book.
And without doubt, one of the most awaited celebrity autobiographies this year is Karan Johar's cheekily named 'An Unsuitable Boy' which has been co-authored with journalist Poonam Saxena. As expected, the book is already making waves, thanks to some excerpts that were released where Karan talks about sexual orientation, trolls and much more.
The ace director seems to have poured his heart out in the book and if the book's experts are anything to go by, your first reaction to his shocking revelation would be, it is lonely even at the top!
On his sexual orientation
Just stopping short of a rather bold admission, Karan Johar writes, "Everybody knows what my sexual orientation is. I don't need to scream it out. If I need to spell it out, I won't only because I live in a country where I could possibly be jailed for saying this. Which is why I Karan Johar will not say the three words that possibly everybody knows about me."
While Section 377 is about acts against the "order of nature", not orientation and being gay is not criminalized, gay sex is. So basically Karan Johar's fear is clearly founded on his past experiences (AIB fiasco). Karan points out that how “I've given hints. I've stood on a platform like AIB Roast, and I had half of the people supporting me and the other half dissing me for doing this.”
Karan writes, “I'm not embarrassed about who I am. I'm not apologetic. I'm embarrassed about the country I live in vis-a-vis where I come from in terms of my orientation. I'm sad, upset and disheartened with the trolling that happens on social media...” He goes on to say that on an average he wakes up to “200 hate posts on Twitter every day”.
Feed up with the mentality of the people Karan says that, “At the end of the day, this whole homophobia is so disheartening and upsetting. And then they say, `Why don't you speak about your sexuality? You could be iconic in this country.' But I don't want to be iconic anywhere. I want to live my life.”
Karan's situation makes you wonder, when will we stop targeting celebrities? When will we leave them alone and remember first they are human beings who deserve love and then they are celebs.
On Shah Rukh Khan
Relationships and friendships in Bollywood change as per convenience, at least that's what the public perception is. However, over the years a lot has been said about SRK and Karan's friendship. A rather dejected Karan writes,"There has been so much conjecture about my sexuality. For heaven's sake, for years there were rumours about Shah Rukh and me. And I was traumatized by it. I was on a show on a Hindi channel, and I was asked about Shah Rukh.'Yeh anokha rishta hai aap ka,' the interviewer said. He worded it in such a way that I got really angry. I said, 'If I asked you if you are sleeping with your brother, how will you feel?' So he said, 'What do you mean?"
Karan goes on to say that, "'How can you ask me this question?' I said, 'How could you ask me this question?' For me, no matter what ups and downs Shah Rukh and I have been through, he is a father figure, an older brother to me. For me to look at him in that way or be subjected to those rumours was just ridiculous."
Speaking for the first time about SRK's take on the rumours, Karan says that all the gossip doesn't bother SRK. In fact SRK said, "People talk nonsense, and if a man does not have an extramarital affair, he is supposed to be gay."
On virginity and growing up
In one of his recent columns for an online daily, Karan spoke about how he lost his virginity at 26, in New York. Recounting the incident he said, "it's not something I'm proud of."
Karan openly talked about being a late bloomer in his column and how blowjobs meant "lying under the fan with all your clothes off". Taking a step further Karan confessed in this book, "while growing up, I was combating a hundred issues in my head. The thought of sex made me awkward; it almost rattled me. I thought, am I asexual? Why am I not feeling this? Why am I not doing anything? There was a lot of turbulence in my head. For me to address it, talk about it, discuss it, was a big no-no. I brushed it under the carpet all through the making of 'Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge' and 'Kuch Kuch Hota Hai'. "
Karan openly spoke about how he "was grappling with my weight issues. I felt physically undesirable. Post 'Kuch Kuch Hota Hai', I had actually started working a little on my looks. I had lost some weight and had groomed myself a bit. Finally, I had developed a little spring in my step, a little confidence. That's when my first encounter happened, after the release of 'Kuch Kuch Hota Hai', out of the country. "
An excerpt from the book reads, "Today, people think that I have all the possible avenues to have all the sex in the world. But that's not who I am at all. To me, sex is a very, very personal and a very intimate feeling. It's not something that I can do casually, with just about anyone. I have to invest in it.... I've always handled the rumours that came my way.”
Karan spoke how waking up to 200 hate posts on Twitter every day is not something that he would want to see and how people tend to write mean stuff on social media. Recounting on such mean tweet Karan Johar said, "you're polluting our nation" and "shove (Section) 377 up your arse".
He says that initially all this deeply disturbed him but now he has learned to brush it all under the carpet. KJO writes in the book, "I have become like the poster boy of homosexuality in this country. But honestly, I have no problem with people saying what they want about me,"