On a recent holiday with two of my girlfriends, I made some interesting notes about relationships and what makes women in particular cheat on their existing partner. While I've always thought that it was easier for men to cheat on their wives and girlfriends, I found my theory being shot down when I witnessed my friend cheating on her partner of 6 years!
Then I got to thinking of the reasons why women cheat and here's what I think.
When I asked my friend about why she slept with a random guy she had just met on a holiday I thought it was just an itch she was scratching but turns out that there were deeper issues. She said she was in a dead relationship where there was no emotional intimacy. And it's not like she hadn't tried to work on that issue but let's face it a relationship is a two way street and not getting a sense of closeness with your partner can mean the doom of any love. She felt like she was in a relationship with a child, that sometimes she actually felt like she was dealing with a kid like a mother. That made her grow apart. At the end of the day women need a man who will make them feel like a woman.
oThis in turn led to a growing dissatisfaction with her mate. And even though they had tried to communicate with each other the distance between them had grown. There can be several reasons why women feel they are in an inadequate relationship and trust me guys women are really not that difficult to understand, except that for most Indian men it's enough that they have a wife and girlfriend and not make any real efforts to understand them.
What's scary for most men is that women now are beginning to realise what exactly are their needs whether emotional or physical. And they are not afraid to go after it and if that means cheating and finding someone who will fulfil those needs, then guess what, you guys are in big trouble.
The most common reason why women cheat is that they don't feel desirable any more. The desire for male attention can be addictive in women in unhappy relationships. So when they meet a man however fleetingly at a random place like a bar, they're willing to risk it all just because the stranger made her feel sexy and desirable which maybe her partner no longer makes her feel. In a way it's a validation that she is still desirable as a woman.
Sometimes there's really no reason but for the simple fact that women like to sometimes chase and be chased. That first rush of passion which dies down after a while is something women find when they meet a new guy. It's like that light bulb moment they show in movies when sparks actually fly!
Most long term infidelities and affairs happen also when the women wants an escape route from the drudgery of being a wife and mother. There is someone out there who takes her on her own terms.
Never underestimate the power of boredom or loneliness. That alone is enough to push a women into the arms of another man. And don't let anyone argue that they are too moralistic to ever cheat on their partners. The occasion probably hasn't presented itself just yet!