Motherhood after 30 has its pros and cons: Mandira Bedi
Eleven years after their marriage, Mandira Bedi and her
filmmaker husband Raj Kaushal became proud parents of baby boy Veer, in 2011.
The actress, who is set to return to the small screen as a host of music
reality show “Indian Idol Junior”, talks about how motherhood has changed her
outlook towards life and brought her more closer to her own mother.
How is motherhood treating you?
Being a mother is an amazing feeling, I am enjoying it to the fullest. Raj was always ready to be a dad but I kept delaying it. But now when I am a mother, I wonder why was I delaying it for so long? It is a highly fulfilling feeling. I have realized that you are a more confident woman when you become a mother. My outlook towards life has completely changed.
Is becoming a mother after 30 tough?
Having a child at a later age has its own pros and cons. An older mother is at a higher risk of suffering problems during pregnancy and many other issues come up, but you can’t escape that mathematics. However, as an older mother you are more settled and you are sure that you can give your child a good upbringing and good education. I think I wouldn’t have been able to give my child a good upbringing had I been a mother earlier. My child will always remain my priority.
Is Veer a mama’s boy or father’s?
Veer is just 22-months-old and I think he is more attached to his mother. I have been taking him along with me whenever I am going on for an overnight trip. But when a trip is of more than 24 hours, I prefer not to take him with me. Moreover, he has started going to a play school so now he has a fixed routine too.
Who takes care of Veer, when you are not around?
Raj and I have a deal. If I am travelling out for work, Raj stays with Veer and if he has to go out I make sure I don’t take up any assignments during that time. Raj’s office is in the basement of our bungalow, so if I am not there Raj keeps a constant check on Veer. And if by any chance we both have to travel for work then I take him along with me. I also have a nanny at home.
I really don’t know what my approach will be as Veer is very small right now. It’s just that you always look back at the way that you have been brought up. My parents were very strict when I was growing up, and I used to feel that they are so mean. And now when I look back I feel grateful to them. I wish I could inculcate same values in my son too.
But you have to move with time. The time when my parents brought me up, was very different from the time now. You need to strike a nice balance. But one thing’s for sure I will never raise hand on my child and will never give up to his demands.
He’s quite a naughty fellow. There are times when he gets very stubborn and squeals loudly to get what he wants. But I just tell him that squealing doesn’t mean he will get anything and everything he wants. He sometimes gets punished too, for doing something wrong.
What is your relationship with your mother like?
My mom is one of the coolest persons around. And after becoming a mother myself I have started respecting her even more. She always has this positive outlook towards life. We do have difference of opinions, but I am blessed to have a mother like her.