‘I got married only to get divorce’
on Feb 22, 2013 , 02:50 pm
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I got married last year in November and honestly speaking, I wasn’t too keen for my own wedding. It may sound strange but neither had I done crazy shopping like other brides nor I got decked up with makeup and jewellery on my D-day and other functions. Yes, everyone around, including my family, was shocked but I was least bothered, as this marriage was only a way out for me to get back to the love of my life. Confused? Don’t be, coz I was not. I was in love with a married man who has two kids. He’s been married for nine years and I met him just two years ago, as we used to go to the same gym. It was only after developing a strange emotional bonding with him that I realized ‘love is actually blind’. What may seem wrong to others was suddenly looking like the best thing on this planet to me.
Though at times, I landed myself in a dilemma that whether to go ahead in this relationship or not for I knew the future won’t be certain, but I was quite focused to give it a try. Thankfully, he loved me equally but the biggest negative point was him being a married man. The only way we could have got together was after his divorce and he was ready for that too, as he promised me.
However, it wasn’t as it may sound, because my parents would have never agreed for it. So not getting into the chaos of convincing them or begging in front of my family to get me married to a divorcee, I thought what if I also get the same tag and then things would be much simplified. So I gave in and said yes to an arrange marriage with a guy who was nowhere close to the kind of mate I would want to spend the rest of my life with.
On the very first night of our wedding, I started maintaining my distance with my just-for-the-sake-of-it husband and gave him several hints that I have been forced into this relationship and marriage. For days he tried to come close to me physically but I was determined in my mind that getting separated from him is my only intend I have married him. Paying no attention to what he or his family thought, I moved on as per my plan and created situations where his parents and family members would get irked and things would turn ugly. As luck favored me, a series of arguments and clashes started and I just got a reason to show my anger and return back to my parent’s house.
Weeks later, my parents got to know about my intention and tried to persuade me to give a second chance to this marriage. Adamant that I would never go back to my in-laws or husband, I made it clear to them that it’s all over now. Though they haven’t said ‘yes’ for my remarriage with that married guy, but I am trying my luck hard to get a divorce as soon as possible and I won’t give up at any cost.
Well, I know you’d be left for a big shock after reading my story but I had no other option. It was the hardest decision of my life also but all I wanted was to get back to the person I loved. And as they say everything is fair in love and war, so I really don’t think I have done anything wrong. Hope some of you reading this blog would understand me.
Though at times, I landed myself in a dilemma that whether to go ahead in this relationship or not for I knew the future won’t be certain, but I was quite focused to give it a try. Thankfully, he loved me equally but the biggest negative point was him being a married man. The only way we could have got together was after his divorce and he was ready for that too, as he promised me.
However, it wasn’t as it may sound, because my parents would have never agreed for it. So not getting into the chaos of convincing them or begging in front of my family to get me married to a divorcee, I thought what if I also get the same tag and then things would be much simplified. So I gave in and said yes to an arrange marriage with a guy who was nowhere close to the kind of mate I would want to spend the rest of my life with.
On the very first night of our wedding, I started maintaining my distance with my just-for-the-sake-of-it husband and gave him several hints that I have been forced into this relationship and marriage. For days he tried to come close to me physically but I was determined in my mind that getting separated from him is my only intend I have married him. Paying no attention to what he or his family thought, I moved on as per my plan and created situations where his parents and family members would get irked and things would turn ugly. As luck favored me, a series of arguments and clashes started and I just got a reason to show my anger and return back to my parent’s house.
Weeks later, my parents got to know about my intention and tried to persuade me to give a second chance to this marriage. Adamant that I would never go back to my in-laws or husband, I made it clear to them that it’s all over now. Though they haven’t said ‘yes’ for my remarriage with that married guy, but I am trying my luck hard to get a divorce as soon as possible and I won’t give up at any cost.
Well, I know you’d be left for a big shock after reading my story but I had no other option. It was the hardest decision of my life also but all I wanted was to get back to the person I loved. And as they say everything is fair in love and war, so I really don’t think I have done anything wrong. Hope some of you reading this blog would understand me.
Neelam Nath
every thing is fair in love and war..so why did you fiddle with some one's emotions,your legal husband..so far..you very sure about ..the divorce(s) 2 lives the legal wife and the legal husband, Tagged for 2 selfish people..and you call it ..love..falling down or going higher.. making mockery of legalities..
on Feb 26, 2013 , 02:34 pm
Dhanesh Joseph
I guess you don't believe in karma. When you cheat an innocent person, you get it back 10 times. hope you wont have to suffer a terrible 2nd marriage
on Feb 26, 2013 , 12:22 pm
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Alex
Just thing for a moment about your lover's children....They would have to grown up taking all these shame all through there life , just becoz you both were selfishness....if your lover is ready to give up his present wife and his own children foru..who he met just 2 years ago...how can u be sure he wont ditch for someother gal
on Feb 24, 2013 , 11:54 am
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Neha Singh
Ur husbnd can take u 2 task legally..
on Feb 22, 2013 , 03:26 pm
(1)Neha Singh
U havent mentioned hw u hve achievd the married man by marrying a 3rd person..But u have wastd the life of a man, which is totally unfair..Just bec ur actual luv is vv rich, doesnt mean u cn do anything..
on Feb 22, 2013 , 03:26 pm
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