Commitment-phobic Indian men

on Apr 08, 2013 , 02:53 pm
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What is it with Indian men and commitment? I have yet to come across a desi bugger who whole-heartedly commits to his girlfriend. It’s a sad reality in India but men often fool around with innumerable girls but eventually marry the ones their mother chooses for them.

Let me sight a real life example for you. My friend had been dating this guy for over 4 years. They were extremely happy together (or so they seemed) and wanted to get married. Unfortunately, the villain here was played by none other than the boy’s very own mother. She tried to talk off the entire marriage situation with her son, and told him that she will die if he marries his girlfriend. So what did the guy do? Well, the guy played along and broke up with the girl who he was dating for over 4 years. Why can’t Indian men stand up for what they want in life?

I understand that Indian men are their mama’s preachers. But why is it that all of their life decisions have to be cross-checked and counter attacked by their mothers?

I don’t understand why it is so difficult for mothers in India to let go off their sons.

I mean, I have seen such situations a number of times. A mother sticks to her son even after marriage and interferes in his personal matters.

I mean hello? How disgusting is that? And anytime a woman breaks her silence and tries to put her foot down, the entire daughter-in-law – mother-in-law drama gets staged.

Well, someone has to put a stop to this recurring nonsense and I guess that has to be ME. So, this is an open letter to all ‘emotionally-driven Indian males'. It is time to take a stance and GROW UP.

It is your life, take control of it. Stand up for your actions. You don’t need any approval or a nod from your mothers for everything.

Krishna Kumar
Don't you feel that you have written something that says, the thief is not under the bed? Your own statement says, the boy married as per his Mother's wish. So who spoiled the man again? Why do you blame a Man for the mistake of a lady? If this guy would have gone against the wish of his mother, another lady like you would come out and say, how cruel, this guy had no regards for his mother, who carried him in her womb for 10 months and fed her blood as milk to him !!! What is the problem of the female community? What is that exactly that you need? Can you come out clearly without controversies? Are you opposing men or the your same species of elder generation???
on Sep 17, 2013 , 10:51 am
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Gaurav Sethi
For a controversial topic like this. limit of 500 words while posting comments is pretty less. In creating and establishing a matrimonial relationship. men have to be mature and smart. Wives they are insecure coz men blindly follow moms whether they r wrong or right. Same way moms are insecure coz they feel they have lost their son. Ultimately, man has to create a balance.
on May 17, 2013 , 01:25 pm
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Mak Samy
WOMAN WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND UNTILL THEY ARE A MOTHER OF A GROWN SON....
on Apr 10, 2013 , 12:40 am
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Newman
It is something called "Choice ! " yes, the same term ladies use when they are breaking up with their boyfriends for a richer,more succesfull or more handsome guy for marriage.If ladies do it then she is "Independant, smart, and has all freedom".but if a guy does that it is bad right ?
on Apr 09, 2013 , 05:25 pm
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Kiran Kumar
Great ! so after marriage the man is supposed to become your pet dog and not take instructions from anyone else, specially his mother. Grow up kid, marriage is not just about taking..at times its giving, at time its sharing. The day you will stop treating your mother-in-law as a competitor and treat her with respect she deserves, you will gain a mother.
on Apr 09, 2013 , 04:57 pm
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Archana Vohra
Actually its half way street..sometimes its the mothers actually latching on and sometimes just spineless men using their mom's as an excuse!
on Apr 09, 2013 , 03:09 pm
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Neha Singh
Only an Indian woman will accept a man with many flaws n many relationships..
on Apr 09, 2013 , 01:15 am
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Neha Singh
Men jst wnt to prove their fertility by marriage, and there is nothing else to it..It is a failed institution for the lower strata of society..
on Apr 09, 2013 , 01:14 am
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Neha Singh
Ultimately, it all boils down to money. If the mom has all the dough, the guy has no choice. I feel, Indian men, especially the post modern ones r really not at all marriage material, and u hv given the reason as well, that's y there r so many divorces..
on Apr 09, 2013 , 01:13 am
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Newman
Many girls after moving around with guys.Using them to their advantage,promising to marry just dumps them and marries some richer or better looking guy.SO will you agree if boys also complain that all girls are materialistic? If you claim these girls broke up from, the guy because she did not see any future from him.Then it also is fair enough if the guy dumped the girl when he realized he will be doomed after marrying her.Also many choose the bad flirty types rejecting the comitting types.
on Apr 08, 2013 , 03:34 pm
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Ash U replies to Newman
+1 on what Newman has told. I have 2 of my friends who married a NRI and dumped their boyfriend (may be now i should call Ex-boyfriend) is this not called materialistic!!!
on Apr 09, 2013 , 05:32 pm
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